Embracing Failure like a Long Lost Friend
You know, I’ve been having some conversations with people about failure recently. Some of these people are in groups and others on sites I’m a member of. And one thing these conversations have in common is that the subject of failure seems to be divided. I’ll show you what I mean:
Which Statement about Failure do you Relate to:
- On the one hand failure is something we were taught when we were younger; that if you failed it wasn’t a good thing. Nobody had to necessarily say that, we all felt the pain of failure. There was an unexpected ending of something and great loss or disappointment followed. Pain was associated with failure, whether it was failing an exam or even a sports tryout. When we failed we felt pain. Therefore we avoided it.
- On the other hand, I’ve been listening to some amazing entrepreneurs like Jeff Walker, Tony Robbins, Dean Graziosi, Susan Garrett and quite a few others that see failure differently. They wear their failure like a badge of honor. Their belief is that if you haven’t failed then you haven’t grown.
Now I know this isn’t strictly true, because of course you can grow in life and in business in so many ways without calling it a failure, and they’re all worthwhile. But what if for a moment we took that perspective? That failure was something to be proud of. It meant we’d tried, we’re growing and moving forward.
Defining Failure is Important
Now it seems to me that these mega-successful entrepreneurs have come to successfully divide failing from becoming a failure. Which makes absolute sense because it’s only temporary. When you have a broken arm, you temporarily are incapacitated but you aren’t identified as a broken-armed person are you? You don’t see yourself that way and neither do others. Yet, when we fail, we often refer to ourselves as failures. So the differentiation between failing and failure is an important one.
When you know that temporary failures are a part of life, you can begin to incorporate them a little more into your life and your language. (Some people I’ve met won’t even use the term failure because they see it as too negative.) These experiences are helping you move forward. You didn’t give up walking because you kept falling down when you were a baby and neither should you give up on your dreams. Ever!
Failure Is a Fast Track to Success
Failure is just a word. It’s not a term or an infliction. It’s not a disease and nor is it contagious. Failure is a fast-track to success. It seems the more you fail, the bigger your success. Of course your family won’t understand this. But the reason people seem to have enormous success following periods of failure is that their success is proportionate. Failure has given them the knowledge and the tools to move in directions they couldn’t even see before.
It opens their eyes to different opportunities, doors that once appeared closed and that’s what we call growth. Growth is inevitable and once you make peace with failure, you no longer fear it.
I now no longer mind using the word, because it’s worn with pride. I know that every failure or disappointment is bringing me closer to success. In fact, I don’t know one successful person who hasn’t experienced failure along the way, many times of all different sizes.
Embracing Failure is Freeing
You see, if you’ve failed it means you’ve made decisions. You’ve made choices and have experienced consequences. All the things you did when you were younger. The difference is that now you know that instead of it being because you were wrong, it’s because you wanted to experience life. Rather than debilitating, it’s in fact freeing.
I now no longer have pressure to get it right and I don’t have to choose ‘the best’ decision. I make a decision and then it leads me to the next and the next. And just like learning to ride a bicycle; I fall – sometimes. Do my decisions work – maybe. Do I achieve what I want, eventually. And do I get back up – absolutely.
Making peace with failure is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made and I challenge you to quickstart your success by doing the same. Give failure a big hug like a long lost friend and welcome it into your life with open arms. You’ll love the experience.
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Who am I?
I’m Gayle Maree, creator of 6 Dimensions of Healing, author, mother, Past Life Therapist and Spiritual Counselor for over 23 years.
Someone once told me (a well-respected mentor) that people need “experts” to live a life they value… and I didn’t believe them.
I thought everybody could do it on their own because I did. I figured out what didn’t work in my life and then I changed it. Actually, I changed me. And it was a LOT of work!
Not because I was trying to impress those that told me I had a ‘bad attitude’ or I had something to prove to people who thought I was lousy at pretty well everything, but because there were aspects of me that even I didn’t like. I wanted improvements in me and my life.
Change Versus Comfort
It was obvious to me that if I didn’t make changes I could expect more of the same in my life as before. The same things that didn’t work, the same relationships that my parents had.
I wanted more. Mostly, I wanted my kids to be proud of me. Damn it, I wanted to be proud of myself.
So, I set about what would be a continuous, amazing journey.
I’ve been with my Spiritual Soulmate over 30 years now and we still work on the relationship, we work on improving us, because we know that whatever we want, to get it we need to be different to how we were.
And I listen so much more now because I value the wisdom of my non-physical guides who have been with me for as long as I can remember.
Now it’s your turn
This is the same path I used to make the changes that led to a valued and prosperous life. So much more than I ever imagined.
The path is laid out in our book 6 Dimensions of Healing