Why Is Mastering Your Mood So Important?
It’s such a simple concept and yet it makes a huge difference in your life. Moods aren’t just an emotion that flutter by unnoticed. Like our thoughts, they’re a tangible manifestation of how we feel.
Now you might think that your mood is temporary and therefore not concerning. But I’m here to let you know that not only should you be concerned about your mood, but you should begin to change them. To do this you need to master your mood.
We Take Our Moods For Granted But Did You Know That Your Mood Is The Key To Changing Your Mindset?
Your mood influences much more in your life than a few fleeting moments during the day.
Your mood actually controls:
- How you see life
- Your interactions with others
- How much you achieve in your life
- The way your day unfolds
- Who comes into your life
- The relationships you experience
- Your FUTURE!
The reason most people aren’t aware of the impact their mood has on every area of their lives, is that we are used to looking for outside influences. So when thinks go wrong, we immediately look for someone or something to blame.
The Great News Is That We Can Master Our Mood
By taking notice of our emotions and choosing a new mood over and over again, we can develop the habit of a great feeling mood. We really can begin to master our mood. And the benefit of this is that we can take control of our lives. Mood Mastery equals Living a Life You Love.
The only reason life sucks at times, is because you haven’t learned the magic of mastering your mood. When you haven’t mastered your mood, your mood masters you. This means life happens and you have no idea why things unfold the way they do.
Mastering Your Mood Is The Key To Redesigning Your Future
We do have a lot of control over how our future unfolds. Because our future is determined by our vibration and this is created by our dominant mood.
We also have a purpose that grows as we do. We begin with a purpose in life and as we grow and expand, our purpose changes and becomes so much more.
But we have a guide. When we decide to use our Inner Mood Barometer to gauge how we’re traveling in life and in which direction we’re going, it’s easy to redirect our path back to where we want to be.
We all manifest constantly because we live in an inclusive Universe. We manifest both what we want and what we don’t want. But it’s the magical manifestations that we want more of.
It’s the unfolding of life in such a way that people look at you and call you lucky. They’re the synchronicities and coincidences that appear, the opportunities that seem obscure. People will wonder how you get things to fall into place so easily. And it is easy. It’s effortless. Because you’re managing your mood, there is no longer the need to control everything outside of you, ever.
A Magical Future
If you want a future that is beyond your wildest dreams, then mastering your mood is not a matter of if you do it, it’s only a matter of when.
There isn’t a time when you aren’t in some type of mood and often you gravitate towards your default mood. This is the one that’s been practiced often and it’s necessary when mastering your mood to know what this is.
There is nobody who is successful and happy in life that hasn’t learned how to master their mood. Mastering your mood is the gateway to changing your mindset.
About Gayle Maree
Gayle overcame decades of limiting beliefs about success and money to live a life she had only dreamt about. She spends her time between USA and Australia (home to their 7 grown children and Natural Health Clinic) and conducts workshops all over the world with husband of 30 years, Allan; helping purpose-driven women like you, shed their old patterns and beliefs to manifest a life they truly love.
People are attracted to Gayle for the high energy, intuitive insights and deep wisdom; and for the powerful transformation they gain through 6D Mood Mastery.
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Gayle is a Spiritual Counselor, Mother, Entrepreneur and Eternal Optimist. She is also author of 6 Dimensions of Healing©.
Sometimes we find ourselves lost and way off-track and we wonder how this happened so suddenly. Yesterday we were ok and today, we’re lost. Our Mood Barometer is key to our understanding.
Being on track is rather like walking a well marked path through a familiar forest. It’s bright and breezy, and easy to follow. It’s an enjoyable experience. We know we’re on track because our mood is also bright and breezy. Life is exciting, we have a sense of freedom and inspiration flows.
Just like any path there are twists and turns, so how do we know when we are still on our path or not? That’s the job of our Mood Barometer.
Stages of Feeling Lost Without a Mood Barometer
Often, our mind will wander and our mood will take a turn. We still feel ok but inspiration is elusive and things aren’t quite working the way we’d like them to. We’re not quite sure what’s happening. This is when we’ve wandered off that forest path just a little without realising it. When this occurs, many moods can set in, such as frustration.
Then we don’t know why things aren’t working and they just seem to get worse. This is a path through the forest that we are actually forging ourselves. It’s no longer paved and illuminated. But still, we don’t realise we’re off the path, eventhough we maybe discouraged. It’s probably somebody else’s fault anyway.
We hit rock bottom when fear and depression comes from being lost in an unknown forest for a long time. We aren’t able to recognise where we are or how we even got there. The only things that we can see are more of the same. More thick forest, more thoughts of things that aren’t working. We are well and truly lost.
Mood Barometer Gives Indicators
Most people don’t understand there’s a transition from one stage to the next. But, just like the forest that changes vegetation and light, we have a Mood Barometer that gives us indicators. Indicators of wandering off the path could be feelings of contentment or boredom. But they’re easy to ignore. These moods indicate that we should readjust our mood to get back on the well lit, familiar path of joy and excitement. And when we don’t, we wander further and further off track, until we can’t even recognise where we are or how we got there.
Role of Our Mood Barometer
It’s always salvageable but there’s a bridge from where we are to where we want to be and it needs to be traversed. We can’t make one giant leap and we need to find our way back to the path, so our thoughts and our moods are what we use to traverse the bridge. We feel our way back to the path.
Now it may seem as though the distance between the well-lit path and completely lost are very close, but it’s not. There are always indicators along the way. This is the job of our Mood Barometer, to indicate to us where we are located at any given time. When we’re aware of our moods, it becomes easier to readjust, well before we get lost.
Our Mood Barometer indicates where we are in relation to where we want to go. The well-lit path of joy and inspiration represents where we want to be and being lost in a strange forest represents fear and powerlessness, the furtherest point away. There are mood indicators every step of the way like signposts, to warn us of the direction we’re traveling. Most times, we ignore these signs.
The reason our mood changes so rapidly is mostly because of the influence we give to outside factors. That’s other people, the response to our environment and opinions towards what’s happening in our lives.
For instance, if work isn’t a good environment, then it’s easy to focus on what’s going wrong. When this happens, our mood follows and maybe frustration is the mood that occurs. This creates a habit of feeling frustrated every time we think about work. This frustration flows through every part of our lives, until everything is frustrating. The only thing that appears before us is more frustration.
This wasn’t a leap from inspiration to frustration, it was a subconscious meandering into the mood of frustration until frustration became the dominant mood. From there it’s easy to keep traveling in the direction our Mood Barometer indicates is well away from our path. Through disappointment, doubt, worry, blame and discouragement. Once we’re there, it’s like trying to forge a path into the unknown. It’s difficult. That’s when life feels difficult and lonely.
We are never alone and we are never so lost that we can’t find our way back on track. All it takes is understanding our Mood Barometer and which way our moods are indicating. Closer to our path or further away. When we’re feeling discouraged and we want to feel great, our Mood Barometer is indicating that there’s a gap because it doesn’t feel good. Closing that gap by building a bridge is the best tool we can have in our Life Tool Box.
Developing the Tools for a Bridge
To develop this, we first need an Awareness.
An awareness of how we’re feeling and an awareness of what we’re thinking.
We don’t need to monitor our thoughts all day, but when we find ourselves smiling, our Mood Barometer is indicating we’re moving towards our path and when we find ourselves frowning, we’re thinking thoughts that are moving us away from that path.
The second thing we need is to Interrupt the pattern of thoughts.
Sometimes we can get so good at thinking rubbish, that the thoughts come thick and fast. These are thoughts that don’t support us, but they’re running rampant. There’s no time to even find something better to think about. That’s when we need an interrupter. There are many methods of doing this. Remember when you were little and someone would tell you something you didn’t want to hear, you would makes noises not to hear them. Well, that’s an interrupter. It stops the mind from taking that same path it’s been going along.
The next piece is to consciously look for something Neutral to focus on.
This could be the weather, nature, a bird, even a song. This is creating some space and stopping the momentum.
When you begin to feel some relief, it’s time for the next step. Encouraging Self-Talk.
We’ve interrupted the pattern. Now it’s time to look for something that our Mood Barometer indicates feels a little better. That comes from our self-talk. Rather than allowing our thoughts to wander, because we haven’t created a new focus yet, consciously choose thoughts that feel better and better. But don’t leap so far that they’re unbelievable.
Use Encouraging Self-Talk to move in the direction of the illuminated path as a neutral space still exists. Your Mood Barometer will guide you. This isn’t rocket science, it’s natural and something we were all born with.
I’ll record a video so that you can see how to use your self-talk to improve your mood.
Increasing Our Default Mood
But don’t stop there. We all have a moods are indicating and it’s good to understand what yours may be. For many years, my default mood was Worry. I would worry about everything and that seemed normal. Then I moved my default mood up the map to Boredom. That was where I spent a lot of my time. Now my default mood is more around Enthusiasm and Eagerness. So make sure your default mood is not so far down the Mood Map that as soon as you move in direction, you’re feeling blame or anger. We’re more likely to notice the signs we’re getting lost, if our default mood is closer to our path.
In summary, the tool you’re looking for is a bridge. The steps along that bridge are:
- Encouraging Self-Talk.
Remember the Rules
There are two warnings.
- Don’t try huge leaps. You’ll end up in the river if you try and jump over the bridge.
- You can’t stop on the bridge because you’ll go backward. Those old thoughts still have momentum and you haven’t replaced the momentum with something better yet.
Practice, that’s all it takes. Then, when you get lost and you will from time to time, you have the tools to traverse the bridge and move towards your path.
But start at the beginning because, until you interrupt that pattern, you can’t even see that there is a bridge.
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If we are being guided, then how do we recognize the guidance our Higher-Self is providing?
Less than 10% of who we are, incarnates into the physical world, the other 90% stays behind in non-physical to guide us. Which means we are never alone. Even when we think we are (check out Footprints in the Sand poem, Mary Stevenson 1936), there is always our non-physical family guiding us towards some relief.
We call this non-physical family our Higher-Self and that’s quite an accurate description. Our guidance has the clarity that we can’t see and has a much broader perspective from which to gain information. Our Higher-Self carries the wisdom of hindsight and can see all the opportunities that will present themselves. No matter what you call them, our Higher-Self always has our best interests at heart.
So how do we recognise our Higher Self speaking?
Does it come from words or is it painted on a billboard?
It can come in many, many different ways. Through thought and inspiration, via a friend or acquaintance, even a complete stranger. It can be written on a billboard or in the sand, often at 3am or in the midst of a crisis.
How do we know what is guidance?
That’s a really great question. Often we don’t. We are stubborn as human beings and we miss the message. But don’t worry, we’ll get another and another. We’ve all heard the story of a man who was waiting for God to save him. Here’s a reminder:
A man was sitting on the roof of his house in a severe flood, waiting for God to save him. A row- boat came along and asked the man to jump in. He refused, saying that he was waiting for God to save him. The deeply religious man had great faith and it wasn’t long until a rescue squad turned up. Refusing their help, he stated faithfully that God would save him. The water was rising rapidly and swirling all around him. He was getting very nervous when a helicopter hovered overhead and sent down a rope. The man ignored it, saying that God wouldn’t let him down in his hour of need.
The stranded man drowned and when he went to heaven asked God “Why didn’t you save me? I was standing on my roof surrounded by water, waiting for you to come. Why didn’t you come?” God replied, “I sent you two rescue boats and a helicopter. What more did you want?”
Recognising the messages from our Higher-Self is a significant part of our own expansion. Sometimes they sound like a whisper and other times, like anger. It’s not because they’re angry with us, but because that is all we can hear. Our higher self will always send someone to intersect our situation, reflect our moods and divert a path that seems out of control.
Does Our Higher-Self sound like Love?
The people around us are our messengers. When we come across an angry person, it isn’t because we’re angry, it’s because that’s all we can hear. It’s often enough to help us change direction. When we have a car accident or a cancer, it isn’t the first hint that something is awry. We have ignored a stream of higher interventions to arrive at this point.
It’s ok if we don’t recognise the people who reflect us as heaven sent. They don’t realise they’re an instigator for change in our lives. They’re not looking for accolades. They’re there to do a job and that’s to get our attention. When this happens, we can make different choices. Is this the direction we want or would we prefer something better?
Does the Higher-Self Judge Us?
It’s not the job of our Higher-Self to judge what’s right and what’s wrong for us. It’s their job to support and love us and offer us a path in the direction we chose before we even came into this life. This they do in whatever capacity we can notice. For instance, when we are angry, we can’t hear harps and angels, we can only hear anger. When we’re depressed, we’re a long way from having inspiration, but we can notice people that belittle us.
So next time you’re having a bad day, look at what has presented itself, whether people or situations and instead of blaming them for your bad mood, ask yourself one question? “What are they telling me?” The answer is always right in front of you. It’s manifested by your mood.
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We’ve all experienced them. The people that seemingly suck the very energy right from under us. It’s an emotional storm. This had happened to me many times before I had a vision in a meditation that changed my perspective and my life. This is what it looked like.
I was walking down the street with a big bubble around me (my energy bubble), when I came across somebody else (also with an energy bubble). I was feeling great and they were having some trouble. Whilst we were talking I could see our bubbles begin to mix. Eventually, she left the conversation feeling better and I felt drained. We still had our own bubbles but the mix inside those bubbles had changed. Our energy had mingled and my mood had significantly shifted in a direction I wasn’t happy about.
What I discovered from this vision was that we all have our own mood which is symbolised by an invisible (to most) energy bubble around us. Others have their own energy bubble which is determined by their own mood. When we communicate with another, our energies mingle and the most dominant mood wins. In other words, because she was dominantly feeling poor and I wasn’t aware of my mood at all, my mood took a fall (see the mood map) and hers lifted. She felt better and I felt worse.
People are often referred to as draining, or a leach or even an energy vampire. These are terms used to describe a union that has left a person emotionally drained. Our first response is to avoid the people altogether and sometimes that can work. But if you don’t know who they are, you need to work with them or they’re a part of your extended family, avoidance is not a good option. However, there is another solution.
It’s easy to blame others for how we feel, but we really do have the power to not only hold our own space, but to influence others towards our own great feeling mood. The reason we get pulled into another’s storms is because we usually aren’t prepared for the adverse weather. Often there is no storm warning.
?Here are 5 Steps to weather an emotional storm:
1. When holding our own good feeling mood becomes a conscious choice, we are more prepared to weather an unknown storm.
2. Setting our intentions to “feel good no matter what” at the beginning of the day, is excellent preparation for any storm, no matter which direction it arrives from.
3. Become a skilled Spin Doctor to get really good at changing the subject, to follow our own path of joy.
4. Not buying into another’s argument. It’s just their opinion and that’s OK.
5. Having an inner mantra to counteract the hail from the storm. (It’s not my reality. Or Wouldn’t it be great if …)
These 5 steps are your insurance. They will automatically encourage people out of their storm and towards your joy without you diminishing your own mood. It’s only when we are aware that we can maintain our great feeling mood and keep our own energy bubbles intact.
It doesn’t matter whether it’s at work, home or play, we all come across these situations. Our power comes from being prepared so that we can stay in our own strength and joy. Sure it takes practice, but it’s certainly worth the effort.
Let’s face it, what are the options?
Unless you’re going to avoid everybody who’s not in a great mood, it’s much more practical to develop empowering tools to stay energised. Otherwise it’s the blame game that will be played over and over. Which isn’t really a solution, it’s an excuse, because we’re still left drained and annoyed at the end of it.
The other person doesn’t necessarily change. If you’re in control of the union, they may feel uplifted, but the aim of the game is to keep our own mood buoyant. Isn’t that selfish? I hope so. Because if you aren’t selfish enough to help yourself to feel good, nobody else is going to make that their priority. So one of two things will happen. They are either happy to come along for the ride, or they’ll make their excuses to depart. Either way is a win for us.
The 5 steps above are what I used to take my power back and because I do healing work, it was important for me to maintain my frequency. Rather than drained at the end of the day, I felt empowered and re-energised. The bonus is that not only did it help me to focus on what I really wanted and that was, to feel great, but my clients were naturally uplifted as well.
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What is a default mood and how do you know if you even have one? The default mood is the one we gravitate towards because it’s comfortable. We experience many moods during the day and each of them is in response to our reaction about something we’re thinking about. Whether we’ve read something and formed an opinion, we’re observing an event, or just mulling things over in our head, it all leads to a mood.
This mood is our road map. It paves our journey called life and becomes our reality. Our dominant mood actually attracts people, events and opportunities into our life. So it’s important that our mood is recognised so that we can change what we’re offering in terms of requests to the Universe.
Everyone Has A Default Mood.
Everyone has a default mood. This is the mood we’re most comfortable hanging around in. It’s the mood we find ourselves in most of the day and the one we base our decisions from. So if our default mood is worry, then most of our decisions will be made from that base of worry. We may move up the mood map to doubt, disappointment and frustration, but beyond that is relatively unfamiliar territory. It’s also very easy to topple into blame and discouragement.
Our scale of experience is in a narrow band somewhere between discouragement and frustration. To go beyond this, to Hopefulness and Optimism, can create discomfort and automatically, like a tight rubber band, we snap back to our default.
When we’ve trained our default mood to become Unworthiness, the easy next step down is Fear, Depression and Despair. It’s only a small step at that, so very accessible. The best we can hope to get to from Unworthiness is Jealousy, Hatred and Anger. It’s really not very good company. When we’re challenged to move beyond this band of moods, to optimism for example, we usually hide and retreat to where we’re comfortable and that’s within our default mood range. We give this fancy names like self-sabotage, but really, it’s just moving back to where we feel safe and familiar.
How Did We Get A Default Mood?
Through the experiences of life, we chose a default mood. Somewhere we could feel safe. Often it was a place to fall, safe from the hurt of the outside world. It was never a conscious choice. No sane person ever chooses to feel bad as their default. But, through the experiences of life, we gradually found our safe mood.
All of our perceptions towards life are rooted in our mood. How we see life, how we respond, the opportunities that present themselves and the choices we make. All of these foundations for living a good life are based in our default mood. It’s our mood that creates either a life we love or one we hate, so if we change our default, we can begin to see changes in our life.
There are 5 Keys to Changing our Default Mood:
- We need to be aware of our default. It’s easy to recognize how we’re feeling during the day by whether we’re smiling or frowning. Whether our thoughts are uplifting to debilitating. Angry or afraid. Matching them against the mood map.
- Consciously choose relief. Once aware of the default, we can begin to look for thoughts of relief during the day, consciously changing the way we look at everything.
- Notice where we’re gravitating. As we notice our mood once again, we can choose better and better thoughts which are the prelude to mood.
- Feel comfortable with the discomfort. Our comfort zone is set to the limits of our default mood. As we begin to notice the shift in mood, we can become more comfortable. The more often we visit a better mood, the more our comfort zone expands.
- Empower ourselves. Using self-talk, we begin to acknowledge we are enough. We are comfortable feeling good and worthy of a great life. We deserve love, joy, inspiration and ease and flow.
Our birthright is to create a life we love. It’s not something we have to do, but something we really want to do.
Benefits Of Changing Your Default Mood
It’s no secret as to why life just works for some people, and seemingly against others. Their default moods are completely different. Therefore their request form to the Universe is completely different. When they make decisions with a base of Optimism, they’re going to see the evidence of optimistic decisions all around them. The opposite is also true for many people.
The good news is that a default mood is changeable. We can change our own. Just by using the 5 keys above we can practice creating a life we really love. The future is really worth any perceived emotional risk. And when our mood changes, we feel great. That’s the greatest benefit of all.
How Do We Stay Feeling great? Well, that’s another story.
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Recently I was asked to write about something my parents taught me. I thought about that for a while and decided that they taught me they weren’t my best advocates. They weren’t my biggest fans. If I had an idea or opportunity, they weren’t the ones to cheer me on. It seems they weren’t a positive role model.
Role Model and Anti-Role Model
Now this may sound quite negative, but actually this is how all opportunities for growth begin. We have role models and we have what I call anti-role models. The difference between the two is that a role model inspires you to be like them and an anti-role model deters you from being like them. Both are crucial to your development.
We see Role Models in our society as being pivotal to our success. They are the ones that lift us from mediocrity by inspiring something better that stirs within. However, inspiration comes when you are in a mood that is close enough to reach it. So, if you are feeling angry, discouraged or even overwhelmed (check out the Mood Map), you are not likely to be in the vicinity of inspiration.
However, when you feel this way, you are very aligned with an Anti-Role Model. Someone who will bring you back down to Earth with a thud by reminding you of your shortcomings. It’s the ones we are closest to that become the instigators for change. These are the people we have grown up with. We have a level of respect for them, whether a parent or a boss, a friend or work colleague. When they demean or diminish you, they are your anti-role models. They bring emphasis to something that needs changing.
Discern Who Shares Your Dreams
For instance, someone not believing in your dreams or your abilities. It did take many years of feeling sorry for myself to get over this unfortunately, but everything happens in it’s own time. Eventually I decided that I needed to believe in myself. It was a scary proposition because there was nobody to catch me when I fell. No one to blame if it didn’t work out and nobody to talk it over with. But that wasn’t the end, it was only a stepping stone. It helped me look for strength and support. Not support from others but an inner connection. I found that when I felt good I was strong and felt supported. I began to discern who I could tell my ideas and share my dreams with and who I shouldn’t.
You see, dreams and ideas are fragile. They are in their infancy and need to be nurtured. It’s our job to protect them and give them the nourishment they need. In this case, their food is encouragement, excitement, enthusiasm, refinement. Share them only with people who will help nurture them. Keep them safe within until they are at a stage where they can no longer be contained. By then, they will be teenagers and want to test their environment. These dreams have been well fed and have now developed to a stage of believing in themselves. They still aren’t ready to take on the world but they are rapidly growing in strength. Let them grow.
It’s at this time your carefully nurtured dreams begin to develop momentum. As others are interested in what they’re about, more come and join their path. Likeminded people who help grow their journey.
Soon, the idea that was but an embryo is a full entity of its own.
Can One Person be both Role Model and Anti-Role Model
Mine all began with parents who pushed me away. Had they not have done this, I may still be looking for their approval. I might still be asking their permission and I may never have believed in myself. If that had happened, this idea could never have been birthed and the dream would not have become real.
Is it possible to have both role models and anti-role models in the same person? Yes it is. Because it’s often not the whole person you dislike, it’s the behavior. So a person can squash the hopes and dreams of a child (because they are afraid) and they can laugh and run and kick the ball with them, inspiring a close relationship.
How To Use Role Models
See your role models as providing patterns of behavior that you’d like to adopt. In that way, nobody has to live up to your expectations. Look for someone in your life that emulates the relationships you’d like and say to yourself “I’d like some of that”. Find someone different who parents in a way you admire and say “I’ll have some of that”. When you come across somebody who loves life, you can say “I’ll adopt some of that thank you”. In this way you are moving toward something you want, borrowing the best of humanity, rather than trying to push away something you don’t want.
You can never push against a thought hard enough for anything to leave your vibration because we live in an inclusive Universe. And that’s why clearing doesn’t work. The more attention you give something, the more you invite it in. So, by all means acknowledge your anti-role models and what you didn’t like. Gripe about what you’d rather not have picked up along the way and what you resent. Then, when you’re ready, build your bridge by using the inspiration of role models and walk over that bridge to something new and enjoyable. Imagine it, love it, immerse yourself in it and burn the bridge behind you.
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