5 Steps for Making the Right Decisions
Aren’t decisions a lot of fun?
I mean, you get to make them all the time. Anything from what to have for dinner to what home to live in. And they all make a difference. Each and every decision you make has an impact on your life.
Not one of those earth shattering impacts. But one of those deep down, plant a seed and reap the rewards influences.
So let me ask you a question.
Do you think you’re great at making decisions?
Because if you’re not, it could be holding you back from reaching your dreams and you don’t want that, do you? So, we thought this would be a good time to clear up any misconceptions around decisions.
You know, the ones like:
- I’m not good at making decisions
- I’m indecisive
- I worry about if they’re the right ones
Now we’re not just talking about dinner here.
Because there really are lots of decisions to be made in life aren’t there? Everything from ‘should I get up early for yoga’ to ‘what’s the right direction for me’? Or ones like “should I believe what they’re saying on television?” “Is this the right job to take or is that car the best deal or even should I take that overseas option?
There are so many decisions to make each and every day and we see people getting themselves in knots trying to sift and sort the good choices from the bad or work out the right ones from the wrong.
The good news is that there are no wrong decisions
Is it so bad that you decide to take the job and it doesn’t work out as you want it to? It’s not as if it hasn’t served a purpose. You were excited about it at the time. Maybe it’s helped you to make a move that you weren’t sure about or to release a previous job you didn’t like.
Humans get so caught up in the rightness or the perfection of the decision and they’re not like that.
Decisions are NEVER about making the perfect choice
Decisions allow life to flow rather than stagnate and you’ll have decisions to make until the day you die. They’re not a right and wrong thing.
Sitting on the fence for a long time about a decision is a really uncomfortable place to be and sooner or later you’re going to fall off that fence. In other words, if you keep refusing to make a decision, then the decision will be made for you. And you may not like it. Because refusing or choosing NOT to make a decision is actually a decision you’ve made by default.
There are natural forces at play in decisions but indecision also has consequences
We have a young friend who wants to buy a house. She has seen many houses that could suit her and while she waits for the perfect house to come her way, she is feeling more and more agitated. More frustrated with each decision she has to make and more worried that her window of opportunity has gone. Each house she misses out on because of her inability to decide, makes her feel worse and worse.
Not because she has to buy a house. But because she committed to herself to buy one and she sits on the fence about which one to choose. Which one is perfect? She doesn’t want to make the ‘wrong’ decision so she becomes frozen in her ability to choose. So she begins to doubt herself and can’t make any decisions.
We know a home is a big decision to make for anyone but there is another way of going about this. She could talk to herself, connect with her inner wisdom through meditation and then stand in her own soul guidance, understanding that the choice she makes is the right one, right now. Because it always is.
It’s the right choice with the information you have right now.
What’s the Perfect Decision?
There is never going to be a perfect choice. But there can be a right choice, the best choice, a fun choice, or a better than expected choice.
So how do you get to the right choice? Even if you’re not buying something as big as a house.
Well we’re going to help you get this, so that you can make the right decisions for yourself.
What makes a decision right or wrong?
Any decision is just a choice you make. This one or that one. This way or that. And it can begin as a very ordinary decision. There’s nothing amazing or life changing about it. But what comes next is the important part and this is what makes it different to a ‘wrong’ decision. You make a decision and then you back yourself. It doesn’t matter if other people don’t agree with it. It only matters what you think.
Why you MUST back your own decisions
So what’s the importance of backing yourself?
Decision remorse. It’s like buyer’s remorse but it’s with decisions. You make a decision, believe and hope that it works and then look at all the ways it’s not working. In other words, your fear gets in the way.
We had a friend who made the decision to move her family to another country. That’s a pretty big decision on your scale. This was a few years ago now, when things were more settled in the world. They were excited about the decision, organized passports, visas, schools, flights, housing, packed up, moved and began to settle in. But business-wise, things weren’t going as well as expected and soon they began to regret the decision. They were running out of money and fear had crept in. Within a few months they had returned to their home country.
Can you see where the turning point for the decision was there?
They made a decision and then made it right. It was new, fun, exciting and they looked forward to the new experience. What did they want? They wanted an exciting life. But the business didn’t take off as quickly as hoped and they were short of money. Can you see how this decision has turned? The focus has become a lack of funds, so there is no way that they can be aligned with their abundance.
They were inspired to make the decision, they backed themselves so it was right and then they doubted, fear crept in, took hold and they had decision remorse. The decision was right but new decisions were made, not from inspiration but from fear.
What to do when Fear takes hold
Now you may not be moving countries but what should you do in those times? The ones where you regret having made a decision as fear takes hold.
You find a way to become centered. We call that Soul Guidance. Through meditation, positive self-talk, looking for what’s working and journaling, you keep making decisions. But not from a place of fear. Nobody should ever make decisions from a place of fear. That’s a battle. It’s fighting a war within and we’ve heard people say life is tough. This is when it’s tough. It’s making decisions before you’re connected with your Soul Guidance. And we don’t recommend this as we don’t want you to battle with yourself.
An email just arrived from a friend that made us smile.
Part of it went: My husband has been in Oregon all summer. I have stayed here (Palm Desert, California) because of my animals, PLUS I purchased a golf course. This came from a lady in her 80’s who understands the value of making decisions and backing herself. What were her intentions? She thought it would be fun.
Was she making that decision out of fear? No way. She was excited, enthusiastic, saw an opportunity and she loves to play golf. Was this the right decision? Absolutely. Not because of the decision itself but because she was inspired and then backed herself.
Many of you are afraid of making a decision because you could lose money, upset the people around you, are waiting for the golden opportunity, or you’re uncertain so you’re not be able to choose.
But if a woman in her 80s can follow her Soul Guidance and buy a golf course, then maybe you can take a chance and back yourself too. Make that decision, go for that goal and enjoy the Universe bringing together the tools necessary for you to live a life you love.
The Universe has your back
Decisions aren’t about the manifestation or the things. They aren’t to make other people happy although they could. Decisions are for the immediate satisfaction and joy that they bring to you. They sow the life energy that flows in, through and around you.
The Universe has your back, it wants to move heaven and earth to give you what you want, but you need to believe in yourself first. Then you need to tend to your mood. Your mood is your emotions. There will never come a time when you don’t need to tend to your own mood, and it will make the difference between a right and wrong decision. Between believing in yourself and doubting.
Because the turning point from a right decision to a wrong one isn’t the decision itself, it’s the tending to your own mood. When you don’t look after your inner self-talk and its starts to get away from you, when you’re not aware of how you’re feeling, then you begin to look for evidence that things aren’t working. And you find them every single time, because you can always find evidence of the things you’re looking for.
5 Steps that will help you make the Right Decision…
- Tend to your mood and meditate regularly
- Make a decision when you feel inspired, excited or it seems like fun
- Check that decision inwardly by imagining yourself in that scenario – as if you are already living it
- Believe in yourself by tending to your mood and recalibrating, often
- Look for evidence that things ARE working out for you
Don’t dwell on any decision. Keep moving forward on to your next decision and the next. Of course, some decisions are going to be easier than others. And others are going to weigh in more. ‘What’s for dinner’ does not weigh on you quite as heavily as changing careers.
But the biggest takeaway that we really want you to get is that decisions aren’t about being successful. They’re not about making money (yet they can do that for you), they aren’t about the perfect choice.
You don’t have to be good at making decisions to make good ones. If you’ve never made decisions at all and follow the 5 steps above, you’ll be confident about decision making in no time.
There’s NO such thing as procrastination!
If you think you ‘should’ make a decision but you can’t then it’s not procrastination, it’s probably that you just don’t have enough information yet. In this case we would relax and chill, and take a lot of time in step 1 and 3. Tend to your mood and meditate, then imagine yourself in not one but a few different scenarios and see which one feels the best.
But we would never make a decision while feeling uncertain. Instead we would just tend to our mood and meditate.
Decisions are the Universal flow that helps your soul expand and they are an important part of your self-esteem. When you make decisions because you’re inspired, you have become confident.
Decisions are about ‘reaching for your dreams’.
We love that term. It has the flavor of expansion within it. So reach for your dreams by making as many decisions as you can and backing yourself. It doesn’t have to be the ultimate choice, just the choice that feels the best right now.
Decisions allow your life to flow and that’s why they’re fun.
We’ll include some decision affirmations for different areas of your life that you can download and use as a guide to get you used to using your Soul Guidance to make decisions.
So look for these below.
Free Affirmation guide for making Powerful Decisions. Click here. Get your Free copy of mantras or affirmations you can begin using now for making powerful decisions in your life for health, love and happiness.
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Who am I?
I’m Gayle Maree, creator of 6 Dimensions of Healing, author, mother of 7 and Spiritual Counselor for over 23 years.
Someone once told me (a well-respected mentor) that people need “experts” to live a life they value… and I didn’t believe them.
I thought everybody could do it on their own because I did. I figured out what didn’t work in my life and then I changed it. Actually, I changed me. And it was a LOT of work!
Not because I was trying to impress those that told me I had a ‘bad attitude’ or I had something to prove to people who thought I was lousy at pretty well everything, but because there were aspects of me that even I didn’t like. I wanted improvements in me and my life.
Change Versus Comfort
It was obvious to me that if I didn’t make changes I could expect more of the same in my life as before. The same things that didn’t work, the same relationships that my parents had.
I wanted more. Mostly, I wanted my kids to be proud of me. Damn it, I wanted to be proud of myself.
So, I set about what would be a continuous, amazing journey.
I’ve been with my Spiritual Soulmate over 30 years now and we still work on the relationship, we work on improving us, because we know that whatever we want, to get it we need to be different to how we were.
And I listen so much more now because I value the wisdom of my non-physical guides who have been with me for as long as I can remember.
Now it’s your turn
This is the same path I used to make the changes that led to a valued and prosperous life. So much more than I ever imagined.
The path is laid out in our book 6 Dimensions of Healing