What is a default mood and how do you know if you even have one? The default mood is the one we gravitate towards because it’s comfortable. We experience many moods during the day and each of them is in response to our reaction about something we’re thinking about. Whether we’ve read something and formed an opinion, we’re observing an event, or just mulling things over in our head, it all leads to a mood.
This mood is our road map. It paves our journey called life and becomes our reality. Our dominant mood actually attracts people, events and opportunities into our life. So it’s important that our mood is recognised so that we can change what we’re offering in terms of requests to the Universe.
Everyone Has A Default Mood.
Everyone has a default mood. This is the mood we’re most comfortable hanging around in. It’s the mood we find ourselves in most of the day and the one we base our decisions from. So if our default mood is worry, then most of our decisions will be made from that base of worry. We may move up the mood map to doubt, disappointment and frustration, but beyond that is relatively unfamiliar territory. It’s also very easy to topple into blame and discouragement.
Our scale of experience is in a narrow band somewhere between discouragement and frustration. To go beyond this, to Hopefulness and Optimism, can create discomfort and automatically, like a tight rubber band, we snap back to our default.
When we’ve trained our default mood to become Unworthiness, the easy next step down is Fear, Depression and Despair. It’s only a small step at that, so very accessible. The best we can hope to get to from Unworthiness is Jealousy, Hatred and Anger. It’s really not very good company. When we’re challenged to move beyond this band of moods, to optimism for example, we usually hide and retreat to where we’re comfortable and that’s within our default mood range. We give this fancy names like self-sabotage, but really, it’s just moving back to where we feel safe and familiar.
How Did We Get A Default Mood?
Through the experiences of life, we chose a default mood. Somewhere we could feel safe. Often it was a place to fall, safe from the hurt of the outside world. It was never a conscious choice. No sane person ever chooses to feel bad as their default. But, through the experiences of life, we gradually found our safe mood.
All of our perceptions towards life are rooted in our mood. How we see life, how we respond, the opportunities that present themselves and the choices we make. All of these foundations for living a good life are based in our default mood. It’s our mood that creates either a life we love or one we hate, so if we change our default, we can begin to see changes in our life.
There are 5 Keys to Changing our Default Mood:
- We need to be aware of our default. It’s easy to recognize how we’re feeling during the day by whether we’re smiling or frowning. Whether our thoughts are uplifting to debilitating. Angry or afraid. Matching them against the mood map.
- Consciously choose relief. Once aware of the default, we can begin to look for thoughts of relief during the day, consciously changing the way we look at everything.
- Notice where we’re gravitating. As we notice our mood once again, we can choose better and better thoughts which are the prelude to mood.
- Feel comfortable with the discomfort. Our comfort zone is set to the limits of our default mood. As we begin to notice the shift in mood, we can become more comfortable. The more often we visit a better mood, the more our comfort zone expands.
- Empower ourselves. Using self-talk, we begin to acknowledge we are enough. We are comfortable feeling good and worthy of a great life. We deserve love, joy, inspiration and ease and flow.
Our birthright is to create a life we love. It’s not something we have to do, but something we really want to do.
Benefits Of Changing Your Default Mood
It’s no secret as to why life just works for some people, and seemingly against others. Their default moods are completely different. Therefore their request form to the Universe is completely different. When they make decisions with a base of Optimism, they’re going to see the evidence of optimistic decisions all around them. The opposite is also true for many people.
The good news is that a default mood is changeable. We can change our own. Just by using the 5 keys above we can practice creating a life we really love. The future is really worth any perceived emotional risk. And when our mood changes, we feel great. That’s the greatest benefit of all.
How Do We Stay Feeling great? Well, that’s another story.
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Gayle Maree is Life Engineer, Counselor, Mother, Entrepreneur and Eternal Optimist.
She runs a healing centre Stewart Natural Health, in Australia with her husband and Natural Therapist Allan Herring and has over 20 years of Personal Development Coaching behind her.
Gayle is Director and creator of 6 Dimensions of Healing, and designs bridges for people to build to get themselves from where they are now to where they want to be. Her book 6 Dimensions of Healing – Handbook is available now.